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Back To School : Caring for Your Child’s Spine

Back To School : Caring for Your Child’s Spine

One more day until the school term starts for us (no…I’m not counting down…really), and we’ve got everything ready – thank goodness. The girls claimed they’ve got their bags packed – hat and sunscreen in their bags – and all the kids’ uniforms are ready to go! Yes, they can’t wait to go back to school either. We definitely have had enough of each other I think.

I remember in back in my day…gosh can’t believe I just sprouted that line! Ok, back to it, I remember when I was in primary school and having to carry this huge bag filled with books. I think our kids are pretty lucky to only have to carry their snacks, lunches, drink bottle and maybe their reader to school and back. Not much in there, which is a good thing. I used to have to drag my books to and from school everyday. Where I was from, Singapore, we didn’t have lockers to store our books in. We would have a time table telling indicating which books we would need and usually it’s a whole lot of books. My grandmother used to feel so sorry seeing me going to school with that big bag full of books. Yes, it was heavy. Some parents even sewed in sponges on the straps of the backpacks to help their kids feel more comfortable. The bags normally don’t last the year too. But that was the only fun bit I thought – we get new bags each year! They were pretty cheap too compared to what we have these days.

Then came high school – we call it secondary school. That’s when you tend to assert your individuality or in most cases try to emulate your peers. Sure we carried backpacks, but we wouldn’t be deemed as cool if we carried both straps on our shoulders. No….it would have to be just on that one shoulder. Regardless of the load we had to carry. And no, we still didn’t have lockers then. It was “trendy” – yeah, but little did we know it wasn’t a good thing for our backs. As if you’d listen if you did know anyway at that age.

Miss 10 (yes she turned 10 last week!), started the same “trend” last year. Carrying her backpack on one shoulder and I think my nagging has become white noise to her. Each time I send or pick her up from school, she’ll hear me tell her to “please carry your bag on both shoulders, it’s bad for you back to carry it on just that one strap”. She’ll do it, but then would revert to the one strap on one shoulder “trend” when I’m out of sight – or so she thinks. Thankfully, her load isn’t heavy – just lunch box, drink bottle and hat. Sometimes, some notebooks, but that’s about it. Not that heavy. Nevertheless, I still think it’s essential for us to help our kids understand how important it is to carry their bags properly so as not to damage their spine.

Here are some helpful tips from Dr Helen Alevaki and Dr Angus Pyke of the Chiropractors Association of Australia (Vic):

  •  Make sure that the school bag isn’t weighing more than 10% of your child’s weight.
  • The size of the school bag is just as important – it should be no wider than your child’s chest and the weight should be evenly distributed evenly across their back. This is why they need to carry it on BOTH shoulders.
  • Most bags come with waist straps nowadays, encourage your child to use them and ensure that the shoulder straps are broad and padded.
  • This one is great for those with high school kids – only bring what’s needed for the day and store heavy books in their lockers instead.
  • Heavy items should be placed at the base of the back pack, which is closer to the spine.

With these tips in mind, hopefully we can help our kids save their spine from any damage in the future. What other tips have you got to share now that school is almost (if not already) back?

After School Playdates

After School Playdates

 

Girls skipping at an athletics carnival

Image from: Powerhouse Museum

Although I’ve organised playdates for my kids when they were in kinder, I seem to be struggling with after school playdates now that they’re in school full time. This started when we moved and Miss 9 transferred to a new school. In a bid to help her settle, make new friends and make her feel more confident about herself, I’ve always said yes to most playdates organised after school. Did I enjoy it? To be honest, not so much. It’s not just about having her go to someone else’s place or having someone over. I didn’t mind her having friends over or having her go to a friend’s place for a play. It’s just that I found the whole thing a hassle. The hassle of having to pick up my other two from school anyway, then if she is at someone else’s place, the fact that I’d have to settle my other two at home, and then pick Miss 9 up from her friend’s place later on. Time I’d rather spend getting things ready for dinner, getting everyone to settle and relax, and then have their shower, in time for dinner. Sounds minor I know – first world problem. But yes, it’s starting to annoy me terribly when either of my kids ask to go or have someone over for a playdate. Is it selfish for me to want them at home, just them, chilling out, not having to worry about getting out there again to pick another child up? Don’t get me wrong, I love the friends all my kids play with, and I’m all for playdates, just not after school. It’s also ok if they play at the school playground after school when the weather is beautiful, just not a private playdate. School holidays are fine, because these are times when I don’t have to rush anywhere and it’s nice for them to see their friends instead of trying to kill their siblings after having spending too much time together.

So, am I the only one who thinks after school playdates are a hassle? Am I being selfish and a wet blanket for not wanting my kids to go to their friend’s place or vice versa after school? I’ve told my kids that I’d rather they not have it during school days and they’ve accepted it. But do you think I’m being a bit cruel for doing it? What’s your take on after school playdates?

High School Secrets

High School Secrets

There are times when I notice that the way I’m bringing up my kids are similar to that of my parents. While I might be stricter on them in certain aspects compared to what my parents were and vice versa, the ones that I find similar is the way we let our kids manoeuvre in this world. For instance when it comes to friendships, how to behave, and decisions they make on the extra curricular activities that they choose. My mum never got involved in whom I chose to be friends with or when there are rifts in some of the friendship circles I was in, the only help she would give me is just sound advice. No butting in and calling the other person’s Mum or talking to the teacher – nothing that serious. And you know what? I think it gave me an edge at solving my own problems. It made me think of what’s valuable to me. It made me learn – albeit sometimes the hard way, but nonetheless, I think it made me a more independent and stronger person.

I try and do the same for my kids, unless it’s a serious issue where I know it’s disrupting any of my kids’ daily life, then I normally just listen and try and give them the best advice that I can. Whether they take it or not, it’s entirely up to them. I have stepped in to have a chat with Miss 9′s teacher once when she had issues with socialising – issues that were pretty serious that could potentially damage her self-esteem and I’m glad that in those instances, the teachers got right on it straight away and now Miss 9 has finally settled in. Now, she’s comfortable in her own skin, has a group of friends that she absolutely adores and is happy at school – the best thing that I could ever ask for. Miss 9 is currently in grade 4, and in 3 years time, she will be going to high school – something that both she and I are a little apprehensive about, but I haven’t shared with her my thoughts on it of course. You see, Miss 9 is still rather immature in certain areas – and I have to say I am quite glad that she is. I’m glad that she isn’t thinking about boys, I’m glad that she still loves playing pretend, I’m glad that make-up and hair is just a once in awhile sort of thing for her. Miss 9 has voiced her concerns that she wished she could stay back in primary school instead of going to high school when the time comes. She’s afraid that she wouldn’t know anyone. I have re-assured her that most of her friends would be going to the same school as she is, so really, it wouldn’t make much of a difference, just in a different school. At the back of my mind though, I knew more that I dared let on. She’s right of course. Things would be different. She would be at the bottom of the ladder again having to start everything from scratch, there will be other issues to look forward to (or not) in high school and…yes, there are no playgrounds in high schools – something she has often wondered about.

Monster High Logo Pictures, Images and Photos
Currently, Miss 9 and her friends are into the new Monster High craze. They pretend to be the characters and act out their own stories during recess and lunch time. Props are also made to “enhance” their play. Only recently, Miss 9 remarked, “Mummy, when I’m in high school, then we can REALLY play Monster High, because it’s supposed to be in a high school!” My reply? I didn’t really know what to say except “Uh-huh”. Deep inside I knew that there was no way they’d be playing pretend or would want to just in case they got teased by the older kids. Or if they did, they would actually have to face older high school kids and probably their taunts. I don’t know, maybe I’m being pessimistic, or maybe I’m being realistic, having been there and done that. Right now, I’d rather not share with her the truth about high school. Right now, I just want her to be the child that she is, to be happy and enjoy her childhood. Goodness knows how many kids out there are trying to grow up too fast right now.